And I'm not saying you can't work for those goals if you want to. But work toward them because it makes you feel good, not because you think there is lack. Because there isn't. Nothing is ever lacking.
This is a friendly universe. Things are always exactly as they are supposed to be.
You don't believe that? Let's investigate it.
Let's say you make minimum wage at your job and your next door neighbor makes $100,000 a year. You think to yourself "It's not fair. I am struggling and they aren't." Let's question that thought. Is it true that they aren't struggling? Can you absolutely know that it's true?
How do you react when you think the thought "They aren't struggling"? Don't you become judgmental? You have no idea if they are struggling or not. They might be paying half their income to debt collectors. They might have a child with a serious illness and all their money is going for medical care. They might be eating beans every night because that's all they can afford. You just don't know.
"It's not fair." Is that true? Can you absolutely know that it's true that it's not fair?
What set of circumstances would have to be true in order for you to believe that it is fair?
How about the fact that your neighbor went to school and worked hard to get that job. Does that make it fair? You could have done the same. Oh, you say you DID go to school and work hard but as luck would have it, you didn't find a great job. Is that your neighbor's fault? Should you begrudge him that $100,000 just because you don't have it? That would be really petty.
Still, you feel there's a sense of unfairness about the fact that we don't all have the same opportunities. But in doing this, you are arguing with reality. And when we argue with reality, we cause ourselves suffering and pain. The reality is, you make $20,000 a year. And that's what you are supposed to make. How do I know that's how much you're supposed to make? Because it's how much you've got. What we've got is always what we're supposed to have.
Byron Katie often says "There are three kinds of business. Yours, mine, and God's" When you start using the word "should" or "supposed to" then you're in somebody else's business. If you say "My neighbor shouldn't have more than me" then you're in your neighbor's business. And if you say "The world should be a fair place" then you're in God's business (God being "reality"). All you have to worry about is your own business.
No one ever has less than they need. And if you don't believe that, I invite you to question that thought, I invite you to question it thoroughly.
Reality is always the way things are in this present moment. Reality is always true and right.
How do you react when you think the thought "Life is not fair"? You feel discriminated against. You feel unlucky, less worthy than others, less valued than others. You feel angry that you don't have what others have. You feel entitled to what they have. You feel frustrated and disappointed in life. You feel jealous of others that have more than you. Doesn't feel good, does it?
Now how would you react if you couldn't think the thought "Life is not fair"? What if that thought didn't occur to you, or what if that thought simply was unavailable to you for whatever reason. Who would you be without the thought "Life is unfair?" You probably would get up every day and go to your job and feel happy. You would do your job because you enjoy it and not because it's the only job you could get. You would see all people as equal rather than being resentful that others have more than you. In other words, it wouldn't matter how much money you had at all. It wouldn't matter how people treat you.
Can you see that it's your thoughts about life that are causing you suffering, not your actual life? Because without those thoughts, you don't suffer, no matter what your circumstances.
If you want more money, go out and get it. There's nothing wrong with having money. But there's nothing wrong with not having it either. Whether we have it or we don't, it's all good.
Being a lover of reality means being okay with WHAT IS. If you're not willing to be okay with what is, you'll always be unhappy. Because nothing is ever going to be the way you really want it.
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We have very specific ideas today about how the social structure of our society should be. There should be no racism, no sexism, no income inequality, no discrimination, no hunger, no lack of any kind. These are lofty ideals.