The Points of Power

At a recent party I attended I met a woman we’ll call Margaret, a friend of the hostess who had been suffering from severe long-term depression for over seven years. In an attempt to help Margaret stop focusing on her depression, the hostess had persuaded her to come to this party, but she was obviously sad, preoccupied and very ill at ease. After talking with Margaret for a while, I learned that she had been to therapy and taken antidepressant medication, but was not able to get significant relief. She had spent so much time in therapy that she was aware of her emotional issues, but was unable to believe that any treatment would help her since nothing she had tried so far had been effective.


I pulled out a folded up copy of a handout that I use in my classes which just happened to still be in my purse from the last class I had taught. I outlined the Five-Step Process, briefly explained it to her, and asked her if she would be willing to try it when she got home that night. She agreed, but added that she didn’t have much hope that it would help. I asked her if I could call her the next day to see how she did. I also gave her my phone number in case she needed my help while she was going through the process.


First thing the next morning she called me before I could call her. She was exuberant! I could hear the excitement in her voice.


“It’s gone” she shouted into the phone. I can’t believe it. It’s gone!”


Margaret recounted enthusiastically how she had gone through the process once and had felt significant improvement the first time. She went through it several more times until suddenly, as she described it, “It was like the sun came out.” Suddenly she knew she was getting better. What seven years of therapy had not been able to accomplish, Margaret did on her own in less than 10 minutes.


Does this surprise you?


The “traditional” treatments for depression and anxiety are weeks or years of counseling or “talk therapy” and/or medication. These treatments often fail because they don’t address the root cause of the illness. “One of the most challenging problems in depression research and clinical practice is refractory — hard to treat — depression. While approximately 80 percent of people with depression respond very positively to treatment, a significant number of individuals remain treatment refractory. Even among treatment responders, many do not have complete or lasting improvement, and adverse side effects are common. Thus, an important goal of NIMH research is to advance the development of more effective treatments for depression — especially treatment-refractory depression — that also have fewer side effects than currently available treatments” (1).


Most treatment programs hem and haw and say that the cause may be a chemical imbalance in the brain, genetic factors, or traumatic experiences in your past. These are not the causes, although they may be contributing factors.


Consider this:



If it was a chemical imbalance, the medication would make it go away.
If it was genetic, you wouldn’t be able to do anything about it.

If it was caused by trauma, well, we’ve all experienced trauma of some kind in our lives. So why don’t we all have depression and anxiety?


Let’s say that two people get into a swimming pool together. Neither of them have ever had any traumatic experiences with water. One of them gets pushed under by a friend and comes up laughing. The other gets pushed under and when he come sup he suddenly has a fear of water that makes him avoid swimming pools for the rest of his life.


What is the difference between these two people?


A simple illustration. In your home, you probably have a breaker box with fuses. When you get too much stress on one electrical line, the breaker trips and the electricity goes off. Nothing on that line will work until you unplug some things from the line and flip the breaker back on. Then your electricity flows again and your television, blender and computer will work again.


The same thing happens with your body. Something happens to make you experience a loss of control in your life. This puts stress on your body’s electrical system. If its more stress than you can handle, you experience a short-circuit in your energy system. Things stop working right in your body and mind. You begin to feel depressed or anxious, and it begins to affect your life in a negative way. Half of all depressed people have high levels of cortisol, the stress hormone secreted by the adrenal glands. Depression and anxiety are often linked reactions to stress or trauma (2). Loss of control is one of the biggest stressors.


Now all you have to do is reset your body’s breaker switch and make sure your body’s electrical system isn’t overloaded in the future!


Sound Easy Enough?


I have created a Five-Step Process that will take you through what you need to do to accomplish this. Each step is explained simply and is easy to understand. The process is a concrete tool to reduce or eliminate depression, anxiety and much more. In fact, the Veteran’s Administration is currently in year two of a five year study on the effectiveness of using a form of this method for treating Veterans. The preliminary findings have been that 89% of those using the technique experience significant relief from their symptoms. In May 2012 the American Psychological Association endorsed a form of this technique as an “evidence-based” treatment modality, which means studies show it to be safe and effective. It won’t take you weeks or years of therapy to see some results, and it can be done at your own pace in the privacy of your own home.

The whole process is outlined in my book “Own Your Life Again” which you can purchase a digital copy of for $10.


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